Just Ask

Long before I started my private practice or even became an occupational therapist, somewhere along the way I learned to not be afraid and ask for something, whatever it might be.  More often times than not, people have helped me when I asked for something.  By the same token, I’ve been able to help others when they’ve asked me, too.

When I was married, my in-laws wanted to purchase a washer and dryer for my husband and me.  The four of us were in a store and as we waited to complete the sale, my father-in-law mentioned that he needed a mouse pad.  I spoke to a salesperson in the store and said how my father-in-law just purchased a couple of major appliances and wondered if they could give him a mouse pad.  The salesperson gave me a brand new one to give to him.

I watched my then two-year-old granddaughter as she walked around a reception once and asked several people for cookies.  Eventually, someone gave her some Oreos.

Last week, I did some research on a local company that offers home health services because a friend of mine asked for my assistance.  Based on the company’s website, it looked like a place where I’d seek their services if I needed them for a loved one.  I took the initiative and spoke with the supervisor and asked her if she would be interested in collaborating if her company needed occupational therapy services.  This afternoon, I received a nice letter from them that said they looked forward to learning more about my practice and “hopefully working with you in the near future.”

Steve Jobs talked about how at the age of 12 years old he called Bill Hewlett at home and asked for spare parts to build a computer.  Mr. Hewlett not only gave Mr. Jobs what he asked for, but he also offered him a job that summer.

When in doubt, just ask.  Because the worst that can happen is that someone says, ‘No.’  You may be pleasantly surprised how much others are willing to grant whatever you ask for.


4 Comments to "Just Ask"

  • Kevin
    April 4, 2013 at 4:50 PM #

    A good friend of mine once told me, “you have not ’cause you ask not.” I got better at asking after hearing that!

    • M Terry Bowman
      April 4, 2013 at 5:00 PM #

      Good for you, Kevin!

  • louise burke
    December 31, 2013 at 4:32 PM #

    I love your website and mantra Terry. I often do that very British thing of not asking because of not wanting to cause a fuss as many of us do

    May I be reminded of the repercussions of not asking in future!

    • M Terry Bowman
      December 31, 2013 at 4:46 PM #

      Thanks for your comments, Louise. Don’t forget to ask for what you want. :-)

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